Making Time for Marriage

It's a busy time.  With two 8 month olds, a full time teaching job, and a brand new fitness business, life is basically kicking me in the butt.  I'm not exactly complaining.  Yes, it's busy. Yes, it's work.  But a lot of that work is invigorating and honestly the best "jobs" I could ever imagine.  Still, it doesn't stop me from feeling a lot of weight on my shoulders.  And I realize a lot of that is self inflicted.  What can I say?  I want to be the best I can be.  I want to achieve it all and be it all.  I want to rock my business, and motherhood, and stay afloat at my day job simultaneously.  And you know what I almost forgot?  That guy that hangs around my house, makes the coffee, and climbs in my bed in the middle of the night.  Oh yea, I have a husband.  And I'd better start paying attention to him too!  

This weekend was a tough one.  Two days and a to-do list a week long and my husband suggests we go on a day date to spend time together before baseball season starts up.  Seriously?  Are you trying to make me lose my mind?? 

But then I took a step back.  I remembered a rule I swore I would live by before kids, and am realizing how tough it can be.  The marriage comes first.  The kids come second. 

A very close friend of me told me about this before we even got pregnant.  I thought it was the best idea ever and because I look up to her so much, I knew it was something I wanted to adopt as well.  But as life takes over and my ambitions get bigger, I find it harder and harder to commit to.  

Regardless, the husband's convincing won and we spent Saturday tasting the offerings at Union Brewing in Baltimore, eating food truck staples that are certainly not on the diet, and stealing a few kisses between conversation with friends.  It was a nice day.  And I know that making days like that a priority are going to be key in keeping the happy family unit that I've worked so hard to attain.  

My goals for the year...

  • Date nights twice a month.
  • Weekends away twice a year.
  • 30 minutes of alone time at home twice a week.
And a lifetime of love with the man who's made it all possible.  Love you honey! XO

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  1. I truly appreciate this post, Michelle! I can very much sympathize with juggling so many balls in the air that it's easy to put your marriage on the back burner. My husband and I have also committed to bi-monthly date nights and a babymoon before our next kiddo makes his/her appearance this summer. Great post and a great message! Keep them coming!

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